• Stop Being Someone You Are Not

    Posted on October 20, 2012 by Lola Kristiani in Health & Beauty.

    “Love brings you face to face with yourself. It`s impossible to love others if you don’t love yourself.”  ~ John Pierrkos

    Enjoy Every Second of Being You!

    To love yourself means to accept yourself as you are and to come to terms with those aspects of yourself that you cannot change. It means to have self-respect,  a positive self-image, and unconditional self-acceptance. It is important to remind ourselves that no one is perfect. We all have strengths and weaknesses and we certainly possess the resources to work on improving ourselves.

    Most people encounter difficult situations and do things that they regret later. The actions you take in any moment are your truth in that moment. Although they sometimes cause you and others harm, they are what they are. Judgment doesn’t bring you further in life and it has no purpose other than to tie you to the past. It paralyses you from going forward and self punishment and self judgment prevent you from living in this moment and sometimes they can even stop you from doing all the millions of good things that you have in you. Don’t let the past steal your present.

    Are you someone who always puts other peoples’ feelings above your own?

    Give Heart to Yourself

    Feeling responsible for another’s happiness, cause of deep misery.  It is noble that you want to help others, but it is something you should do because you want to, not because you feel you have to. The willingness to help others should come after you know how to help yourself. People-pleasers often feel like they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. Remember that you always have a choice to say no. People have a way of projecting their expectations on you, this can lead to a desire to be someone that you aren’t in order to please others. Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions.

    So, ask this to yourself: are you lying to others or lying to yourself?

    Be Proud of Yourself

    When you truly love yourself it’s easy to receive love from others. Accepting yourself is at the foundation of physical and mental health and well being. Constantly pleasing others and taking care of others’ needs can be exhausting and overwhelming. Stop pretending to be some­body you are not and to not put on a show. To stop trying to fit in, and start letting your­self stand out and be remarkable. Stop trying to mold your­self into the image others want you to be, in order to impress other person. If the person (or group) doesn’t like you for who you are, then find one that will accept you for you. If you accept yourself as who you really are, that is the beginning of accepting all.

    Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, it is almost impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.

    How to love yourself?

    Always Love Yourself Everyday

    ♥ Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.

    ♥ Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

    ♥ When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror.

    ♥ Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.

     Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it.

     If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes, so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them.

    “To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven.” ~ Alan Cohen

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